Dear Chip #19: “Keep Your Head High”

Dear Chip #19:

Dear Chip,

You know “teenage love”? It sucks, especially at a young age. I fell in love, truly. You know people don’t believe it and say you could never, you yet to even know the meaning of love. It isn’t true. I don’t believe I am IN love with .. let’s name him J… I do love him you know? but I don’t believe he is my person, at least not anymore. Young love is so confusing, every single teen is growing up and realizing what they want how they want etc. I used to think it was right person wrong timing. I guess I still do. J has done so much damage to me, mentally that is. I lost trust in people, I began to believe everyone would do what he had done. My heart used to ache at thinking of him. Tears would fill my eyes when our mutual friends brought him up. I don’t hate people , I just don’t believe in hatefulness.Though I thought hating him was easier than loving him. So I did. We see each other around the halls, never speak, i don’t check on him and he doesn’t check on me. I hope he learns to cherish the best parts of life. I hope he succeeds in everything he loves to do. I hope he gets everything in life. I hope he has the best senior year next year, I hope he gets into the college he’s dreamt of, I hope he gets every car he’s ever wanted, he loves them. Anyways,life got so much better, I am happy! I have lovely friends, I have an amazing family, and so on. But there are times I still think back.

I guess my question is, have you ever lost anyone, maybe not by death but by y’alls connection? possibly a sibling, a parent, friend, significant other, or a cousin. did it break your heart? how’d you function with your heart aching?

Sincerely, the person missing you

 

 

Dear the person missing you,

I know what it’s like to lose someone you love. It sucks. Truly.  I was in love for someone for over a year. I thought that everything was great, we were happy and had so much fun together. We hung out all the time and it seemed like love not just to us, but to everyone around us also. We never dated, sadly. It was one of those situations where he treats it like your dating, but never make it official. I guess he couldn’t commit, and just didn’t know how to tell me. I have a habit of liking emotionally unstable guys who have been through bad heartbreak and fear commitment. We both preform on stage, so we had done multiple shows together. He came to my birthday party last year and a couple weeks after that I finally decided to tell him how I felt. “You’re cool and an amazing person and beautiful, but I just don’t like you like that”. That’s the response he gave me after getting the courage to tell him after almost 9 months of practically dating and never made it official. I know, sounds like a jerk, right? After that we both just drifted apart and didn’t talk. He would check up on me sometimes just to see how I was doing and to make sure I was ok. He finally called me one night telling me he wanted things back to how they were between us. I told him while crying that I couldn’t go through that again. I remember him telling me not to cry and the pain in his voice of finally realizing what he put me through. It took me a good couple months to get over it, but I did. And yeah, I still have boy troubles, but I know I can get through it. My saying is that everything and everyone you meet there is a reason, whether it is good or bad. People still think that we are dating, and I might have run from him the other day at a restaurant, but I’m ok. All I’m saying is you can’t ever just erase what happened, but it does get better. You will find someone new, and you might be hesitant about it at first, but it’s part of life. Get back up stronger than before, keep your head high.

 

Have a lovely day,

Helping Friend